Should I break my teens trust to rescue someone else…Now What?

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THE CHALLENGE: My daughter is 13. She is BI she has a GF who I absolutely adore as they have been friends since kindergarten. They are both quite nerdy and I know they have not been physical because she tells me everything. Any who she has another friend who she is close to and this friend has a boyfriend. She actually went to the mall with my daughter as a cover up to go meet her boyfriend while her mom had no clue. I was bothered by that but I thought I’ll just keep it to myself. Then my daughter told me that this girl has been talking about wanting to have sex with this boy and she even went as far as buying condoms. I don’t think this is age appropriate and want to bring it to the attention of the mother however if i do that i’m scared my daughter will hate me and not tell me everything anymore. I trust my daughter but being that age once i know how you can be influenced by friends to do things that you may typically not be ready for. Please nay advice on what i should do in this situation?

NOW WHAT: I will speak from experience. Once the trust is broken it will take a long…long….long time to get it back. If you are lucky you will get it back. If you break this trust not only will you break the trust with your daughter, you will break the trust she has with her girlfriend and it a teenagers eyes that is a cardinal sin. They are extremely attached to their peers and if you end up getting in the middle that will be an extremely harsh blow to deal with for your daughter. I would feel blessed if I had that trust with my teens when they were her age. So some questions to ask yourself. What am I hoping to have happen by spilling this secret. What is the worst thing that could happen if I say something? Will telling this secret really protect my daughter? If I do tell will this girl stop being friends with my daughter? What are the consequences of that? Is that what I really want? For them not to be friends any longer so she will not be a bad influence on my daughter. So who is telling this secret really serving? Me, my daughter, her friend, her friends parents. There are 3 businesses in life. Our business, everyone else’s business and God’s business. Who’s business is this that you are interested in being a part of? I would be content knowing that my daughter still trusts me to keep her secrets. I would be confident in my parenting skills that I raised her right for her to know right from wrong. I would be happy to let her make her own decisions in life and be there to support her whatever the outcome. We can love them or control them. We can’t do both. Whatever your decision it will be the right one. 🤘

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Parenting Challenges and nowhere to turn! Send me your challenge and let’s see what we can do to empower you, reduce some of your stress and help you build a stronger foundation with your children. Email me at whatsup@richiepryor.com


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