I want our suffering to end…Now What?

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Dear Coach RICHIE: ,I’m sorry. I consider myself a “lapsed Christian” if that makes any sense, and I just truthfully need to vent. My kid doesn’t deserve to go without because I’m a failure at parenting. My child deserves to go to bed with a full belly and wake up in a warm house. My electric is in danger of being shut off. Food bank isn’t open until Tuesday, and I don’t get my renewal of food stamps until the 11th. I can’t even afford to get my child winter clothes, much less pay off a past due electric bill. I wish I had chosen a better father for my child, because then maybe I would get some type of child support but you can’t get child support from someone who’s in jail for sexually assaulting a minor. I wish people understood how hard it is to be a single mother sometimes. I’ve been let go from jobs because I didn’t have reliable child care, I’ve been told “You’re not a good fit” because I’m a young single mom with only a high school diploma. I’ve been turned away from a church because I wasn’t a member of the congregation. Sometimes I wish I could just go to sleep and not wake up the next morning because days like today are so bleak. I want our suffering to end. I haven’t been to a church in years but I still pray every night for something better to come along for us. I don’t know if this will accomplish anything but thanks for reading and listening to me.

COACH RICHIE: It sounds like you are in a difficult situation and have a lot of challenges going on in your life. You can’t go back in time and chose a better father for your child and living with that thought is only going to make you feel worse. You appear to be emotionally stacking problems which is putting you in the place you are. Sad, hopeless and depressed. Your child is not an item that can be returned. People will always be judging us. That is just a fact of society. Are you suffering with a ton of limiting beliefs. Single mom with only a high school diploma. Do you think you are the only mom on this planet that is single and only has a high school diploma? Why are your days so bleak? When we think like this we are either suffering in the past or fearful of the future? Which one is it for you? Sounds like maybe a little bit of both. First you said that you wish you could go to sleep and not wake up. Then you say you want your suffering to end. Do you think you were blessed with a child so you could both die? Some people can’t have children. Is your child really suffering or is it you that is suffering from the thoughts in your mind and the what if scenarios that you are running 24×7 of what is wrong with your life. What is going right? Do you have air in your lungs? Is your child safe? Could you start your morning with something to be grateful for? Something you can appreciate? Having a roof over your head, air in your lungs, 2 legs, 2 hands, eyes, ears a heart? As human beings we sometimes only see what we don’t have and fail to see what we do have. There are plenty of people on this planet that wake up with no eyes, no ears, no legs, no hands and some don’t wake up at all. You have mentioned a couple of times that you are a christian. It sounds like you have lost faith and without no faith there is no hope. What can you do today to start changing your circumstances. Can you not complain one day about what is wrong with your life and use that energy and put it into something that can make a difference and give you hope? The stories we tell ourselves is how we live our lives. Do you think it’s time for you to create a new story. Change the narrative of this one so you can find more hope, love and happiness in this world. Not only for you but for your precious child that didn’t ask for any of this negativity and self loathing. What can you do to find faith today? What about if you decided to go to church and see what could happen. You need to start doing some different things to make things happen for the better. Sitting at home and complaining about life will never get you to that step #1. So what is that step #1 that you need to take today to create some magic in your life. I hope this helps. You are a strong person and a mom who gave birth to a child. You have the power to do anything you want to in life. Don’t let your mind and thoughts keep you from finding your potential. BE RESOURCEFUL. All my love and support on your journey. Coach Richie

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My 14 year old daughter is obsessed with her weight I am worried…Now What?

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Dear Coach Richie: I’m so worried about my daughter 14. A few months ago we suspected she may have been making herself sick after meals. I had a serious heart to heart with her and she insisted she wasn’t. She did loose weight but not a drastic amount. She never looked “skinny”. Anyway this last month or so she seems obsessed with her weight..insisting she is fat. She is a UK size 12/14 bottoms and 12 top. She is refusing to eat what we have for dinner and will only have salad. Again she isn’t skinny, she has large hips but that genetic and she is never going to help that. She walks a few miles everyday, and has started staying behind after school to use the gym. I think she has a beautiful natural figure. It’s causing logger heads at home as her dad just looses his temper and shouts at her forcing her to eat. I try and provide a healthy option for dinner but even then she will only pick at it. I’m worried about going to the doctor as I’m frightened they will tell her she is over weight. She’s tall about 5ft6. She definitely doesn’t not look the weight she is on the scales. I have always been on the larger side. Her brother is quite large and actively trying to loose weight. We constantly have to remind him what he shouldn’t be eating. But how do we balance the 2 extremes in the house.

Coach Richie: First of all I would try to help your husband understand that losing his temper and forcing her to eat is only going to make her more self consciousness about herself. My dad picked on me and it made me angrier at myself because I felt as though I was doing something wrong but also I resented him for constantly picking on me. She is at the age where her self-image is more important than anything and fitting in with her peers is at the top of her list. She also has a tremendous amount of pressure going on in her life. I had challenges with my son for many years with his weight when he was a teen. It seemed as though the more we talked about it the more anxious and depressed he became. We eventually stepped back and allowed him to figure it out and kept a close eye on him. We didn’t want to constantly question him about what he is doing (ie eating, etc) because we felt we were pushing him away from us. It is so difficult to help them understand that they are beautiful when all they seem around them is these stick figures that believe they look good. What about giving her some space. If she is eating salad that is a start as long as she is getting some protein and health fats. What about trying to find out if there are any support groups in your area that specialize in teens that has this type of challenge. What about seeing if you can find her a nutritionist to help her plan meals and discover some foods that she may be interested in. What about speaking to her doctor and asking them what their thoughts are if you think she is throwing up after meals. I agree taking her to the doctor may be a bad idea. But if you pre-frame the conversation with them and give them the heads up it may be worth a shot. What if the healthy options you are making her for dinner are making her more self consciousness? What if you decided to let it be for a couple of weeks or so and not mention it at all. Let her do some exploring on her own and work through the challenge she believes she has. Because in the end it doesn’t matter what we say. Our children believe what they believe and it is our job to keep them safe, guide and mentor them on their journey in life. Sound like you have a wonderful family and you are an amazing mom.You will figure it out. You got this. 🤘

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My 9 year old daughter has no social skills…Now What?

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Dear Coach Richie: My 9 year old daughter has always been a little different than the other kids. She doesn’t make friends as easily and she has a hard time keeping the ones she does make. In her own words, she feels like an outcast. For the past few years I’ve been trying to help her build her social skills and confidence by keeping her in after school activities, arranging play dates, etc. I kept thinking that if she just had enough practice and support, she’d eventually “get it”, and be able to integrate more into her group of peers and form the friendships that she craves.

She became close with a very caring and kind-hearted girl in her class (let’s call her B) which I was thrilled about. B’s mom is the leader of her Girl Scout troop, and is also very nice and fair and always did what she could to build my daughter up and encourage her. B has a large group of friends at school, and I thought that her becoming close with my daughter was just the opportunity she needed to come out of her shell and blossom. Things could not have backfired worse.

B has a sleepover birthday party and my daughter was invited. I was thrilled. There were about 10 girls there, all in her class and I thought it would be a great opportunity for her to become closer to some of them. I was out of town for work this weekend so my mom took her to the party and picked her up. I got a FaceTime call Saturday morning from my daughter in tears telling me what a terrible time she had and how everyone had ignored and excluded her. I was heartbroken and I let her vent and tried to build her up and let her know I was in her corner. I texted B’s mom to find out more, and it soon became apparent that my daughter was a big part of the problem. B’s mom emphasized how she and some of the other girls at the party tried to make my daughter feel included, but she perceived that she was being ignored and was not welcome, and she spent a good bit of the party crying and complaining. Now I’m not going to pretend that there are no mean girls in her class, because there are, and cliquishness is definitely rearing it’s ugly head already. But I trust B’s mom and I know that the way she described the situation sounds exactly like something my daughter would do.

I am still trying to be supportive of her and make her feel like I am on her side so that I can guide her to make better choices and handle herself better in the future. But last night I talked to her and asked how school went Monday and if she talked to B. She said yes and that she also talked to B’s mom when she came to pick her up at aftercare. I asked her to tell me how to conversation went and she said that B and her mom were upset that a few of the girls did not have a good time at the party, and my daughter REITERATED that she DID NOT have a good time.

My jaw dropped. Her lack of tact or social graces or just EMPATHY to know that you don’t further knock a friend down when they’re already upset… it makes me feel sick. I texted B’s mom and asked her to apologize to B on my behalf, and I got back a very graceful and very gentle reply which basically confirmed my fear that B is not going to want to continue the friendship. And my daughter still doesn’t seem to “get it”, that she did anything wrong.

I feel like I’m in so over my head. I thought she just needed more practice to find her way but I’m coming to realize that’s not the case, and I think there is something really wrong with her and she needs help. I’ve got an appointment to talk to her school counselor and I’m trying to figure out how to get her into professional counseling so we can get to the bottom of this, whether the problem is emotional, behavioral, neurological… I just don’t know. She has Medicaid so that’s an added layer of difficulty in getting prompt attention, but I can’t afford private health insurance or to pay out of pocket right now as I’m in school. Her dad and I are also not together and he is showing an astonishing lack of concern about her problems. We split time with her 50/50 right now but I think that that is causing her emotional problems and I’m looking into petitioning for primary custody so that I can give her more stability and support, but that is a whole other can of worms.

A concrete question to end this rant though: should I sit her down and make it clear to her that B does not wish to continue the friendship and her behavior is to blame? Part of me really wants to, because I want it to sink into her head that her behavior towards other people, towards FRIENDS is unacceptable. But if her behavior is stemming from emotional or psychological problems that are outside of her control, i don’t want to pile onto her and make her feel even worse about herself. Besides I’m not even convinced that she is able to get it because I’ve always pointed out how her behaviors might push people away but it doesn’t seem to sink in.

Coach Richie: Parenting should be easy and what I am saying may hit a nerve that bothers you. However, It is what we need to hear as parents when we feel overwhelmed and think our children are broken. Our ego’s tell us that we are bad parents.

There is a lot of things going on here. Your daughter is living with a label that she is an outcast. Helping her build social skills…What does that mean to you? sports, play dates, etc. Is this what she wants? I know that is what we want as parents. To make sure our children our socially acceptable. But how we go about helping them sometimes hurts them because by us thinking we are helping them by sometimes forcing them into doing more things to make friends. We ultimately are reinforcing the label that they are believing about themselves (outcast, social misfit).

Listen to the language you are using. Sink into her head, unacceptable, pile onto her. You tell her that her behaviors push people away. You are validating how crappy she feels about herself. Does your daughter actually make you feel sick. Turn that question back to yourself. The way we view others is usually a reflection of how we see ourselves. Do you think she can feel this negative energy coming from you?

What does coming out of her shell and blossoming mean to you? What are you really afraid of if she doesn’t do this? What are the consequences you see? How does that reflect upon you? What does she need to withhold her truth? Is that a form of social acceptance? What is wrong with telling her friend that she didn’t have a good time? It is honest. She was just going along with the crowd because other’s didn’t have a good time. So you don’t want to her to express her feelings? Do you think suppressing her feelings is good? How do you think that will benefit her in the future?

What does she need to eventually GET?

Are you out of town for work a lot? Does she maybe feel abandoned? Her parents are no longer together? She is being left with her grandmother? What do you need to do in order to understand her world even more? She is only 9 years old. She is not you. She is her own person trying to find herself in this crazy world.

She is also most likely having difficulty with a 50/50 arrangement. Her world is chaos, she has two sets of rules and getting different advice from both of you. Her entire world is falling down around her and nobody is listening to her. Everyone is trying to fix her. I see this in so many parents. They think their child is broke. But what is broke is the relationship we have with our children and the environment they are in. We need to fix us before we can even be there to support our children.

Do you want to help yourself and your daughter? Do you want to save her from turning to her the outside world for advice (she will eventually find friends) but not the friends that you think she should have. The will be outcasts that will poison her mind against you and your ex. You have a small window of opportunity now before you lose her forever to the world. These children end up in prisons and coping with drugs and alcohol. I work with parents and teens every day that end up in this space because nobody heard them and they certainly didn’t see them.

What are you not seeing? What are you not hearing?

She needs some more love not more lecturing and how to act conversations.

This is another window of opportunity to change course. Don’t let it pass by. You can love them or control them. But you can’t do both. All my love and support on your journey.

I would be happy to give you an hour of my time and help you brainstorm some options. However, it is going to be very uncomfortable for you because the focus needs to be on you and not your daughter.

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My daughter has escalated the lying to stealing…Now What?

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Dear Coach Richie: My daughter has escalated the lying to stealing. Please help. My son and I share a birthday. Of course he gets all the attention- as it should be. So from my parents and in laws I got cash for new dress shoes as I was an afterthought.
A day or two ago I noticed some of it missing – $150 if the $300. We looked around and couldn’t find it. It was fairly open – I’m trusting – and I realized one of the kids from the bday party could have taken it. I was chalking it up as a learning experience.
My wife to “be certain” asked both kids point blank today. Both denied it.
….then we get a call from the school asking if we really have my daughter $150 in $50’s for the school book fair. So she both stole it and lied to us. She’ll be 8 in Nov.
And honestly, she lies pretty often as it is.
Any advice how to handle this? This behavior needs to stop, but I’m worried that if we come down super hard on her she’ll grow up with a “they don’t trust me anyways, I may as well” attitude.

Coach Richie: My kids denied everything as well. Our children’s first instincts are to lie. Who left the empty milk container in the fridge? The dog?. The lying comes with parenting. Part of the game. First thing I would try to figure out is what is going on in the house that would cause her to act out and draw attention to herself. Sometimes children do things because they are not being heard or because there is some trouble in the house that they don’t understand and one way they believe they can remedy it is to have the focus be drawn onto them (I see this typically when parents are constantly arguing). Since she shares a birthday with her brother, could he possibly be getting more attention than her? Have you had a check in with him to see what was going on. If it was me. I would do a family meeting (but never in the house as the children don’t see this is a safe place, peer influences they get from their friends) what do they like to do or eat and take them there. Then casually bring up the missing cash and you and your wife could blame each other and see if that goes anywhere. What was the money for? Maybe play a guilt card in front of them. You could also be sincere and ask them what they need and listen to what they say. One thing I wouldn’t do is use harsh language that will push them away. That will create a very bad environment when they reach their teens. This point in their young lives you need to be resourceful and find ways to become their friends. Because right now they are being influenced by their friends and outside factors. You have small window of opportunity to reconnect with them before it is too late. (they turn 13 years old) that is when real trouble starts. In the end it is not really about the money or the lying. it is about finding a way to become their friend and connect with them so they don’t create chaos in order to be heard or get attention. We can love them or control them but we can’t do both. Hope you find something useful here. All my love and support on your parenting journey. Richie

Response: The lack of attention is a concern for most now as it rings the most true. She has very few things she enjoys doing and we’ve cut out the destructive negative ones.

Coach Richie Follow Up: You are heading in the right direction. Attention is usually one of the top ones especially at her age. Some more questions. What did she like to do before? I had some similar issues with my boy’s at that age. We started do family’s dinners (technology free) and spend some time listening to what they have to say. I also found it helpful to share some of the challenges I had when I was there age. It helps build rapport with them and identify with us. Our children usually view us as the God’s of perfection and if they see us in a different light it could possibly help you get the shift you to address her needs. Have you sat down with her and asked her if she could do anything in the world, what would that be? Or you guys could start by saying if i could do anything I wanted to in life i would do x. Then throw it out for discussion. hope this helps. have an amazing day. 

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My daughter is faking sick…Now What?

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THE CHALLENGE: How do you deal with children faking sick? When my daughter stays home with a cold, she has a really hard time going back and she was getting ready, but then she came out of the bathroom looking sad and said she just threw-up water. I didn’t hear any puking noises. I think she just doesn’t want to go back.

So I’m cooking bacon now to see if she asks for any. 😂

COACH RICHIE: My wife used to tell our son.”Let me call Dad and see what he thinks about you being sick”. FINE. I can go to school. Is it your first instinct is that she is lying? Does she lie about other things? Have you ever taken her temperature, have you ever offered to call 911 or take her to the emergency room to get looked at. If they are faking than this is the easiest way to call their bluff. However, we need to make sure we are acknowledging their emotions because if they are truly sick we do not want them going through life hiding their feelings and emotions from others. They will end up wanting to escape into a world where they are not being judged, they can express their emotions without having the feeling that they are not trusted or they are lying about how they feel. When it goes to this level they find others to trust instead of us as parents and that typically ends up being their peers..who most often will offer them bad advice and they will begin to start plotting against the parents and make them an enemy of the state. We can love them or control them, but we can’t do both. Go with your heart and you will always make the right choice. 🤘

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My 15 year old daughter is dating a maniac…Now What?

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THE CHALLENGE: I can’t even begin to understand what this little punk thinks he is going to accomplish with his texts to my husband. Swearing and calling my husband terrible name. So disrespectful and hurtful. These came after my husband text our daughter because she was over an hour past her curfew tonight. She text my phone and said I’m sorry I’m late about forty minutes past. She is 15. We have rules, boundaries, limits…whatever you want to call them…and they dont like them. They have been “dating” since May. She has changed over the course of these last 4 months and not for the better. I guess we found out why tonight.

COACH RICHIE: Unfortunately, she has become disconnected from you and your husband and has discovered a connection with this boy. She most likely confuses in him with the rules she is subjected to and he comforts her agrees with her and is on her side. Which makes her feel good. Trusted, and heard. Which she doesn’t feel like she is getting from you guys. The boy is really disrespectful and is probably being raised by very poor role
Models that don’t respect him either. They have created a bond which is them against the world ie their parents. This pattern will only get worse and she will begin to act out even more that holds even more severe consequences. Coming up with a plan. First if you try to bad mouth the boy you will push her further into his arms. She will see this as just more control that you are trying to gain over her. I had a similar challenge with my son and when we blessed the relationship he finally figured out she was not good for him. Most likely won’t work in this situation. So what do you do. Unfortunately. You have limited options and need to start trying different things.
I would minimize text
Communications. Teens have the advantage over us. Conversations need to be done in person. I would also regroup with your husband and take a hard look
At the house rules
Have you told her the reasons behind the rules? Do you even know the reason? These rules need to be laid out and the why is the most important because teens can’t understand them. I agree they need some boundaries however they see everything as controlling and all they are trying to discover is their identity and independence is a big component of that. Lastly make a commitment to make her your friend. What does she like? Then do it with her. Any serious conversations should be done outside of the house because she doesn’t feel safe there because of the rules. You need to be resourceful in your actions and never give up with trying to reconnect with her. Hugs always help. We can love them or control them, but we can’t do both. You got this. Come from the heart instead of your minds and you will win her back.✌️

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Should I break my teens trust to rescue someone else…Now What?

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THE CHALLENGE: My daughter is 13. She is BI she has a GF who I absolutely adore as they have been friends since kindergarten. They are both quite nerdy and I know they have not been physical because she tells me everything. Any who she has another friend who she is close to and this friend has a boyfriend. She actually went to the mall with my daughter as a cover up to go meet her boyfriend while her mom had no clue. I was bothered by that but I thought I’ll just keep it to myself. Then my daughter told me that this girl has been talking about wanting to have sex with this boy and she even went as far as buying condoms. I don’t think this is age appropriate and want to bring it to the attention of the mother however if i do that i’m scared my daughter will hate me and not tell me everything anymore. I trust my daughter but being that age once i know how you can be influenced by friends to do things that you may typically not be ready for. Please nay advice on what i should do in this situation?

NOW WHAT: I will speak from experience. Once the trust is broken it will take a long…long….long time to get it back. If you are lucky you will get it back. If you break this trust not only will you break the trust with your daughter, you will break the trust she has with her girlfriend and it a teenagers eyes that is a cardinal sin. They are extremely attached to their peers and if you end up getting in the middle that will be an extremely harsh blow to deal with for your daughter. I would feel blessed if I had that trust with my teens when they were her age. So some questions to ask yourself. What am I hoping to have happen by spilling this secret. What is the worst thing that could happen if I say something? Will telling this secret really protect my daughter? If I do tell will this girl stop being friends with my daughter? What are the consequences of that? Is that what I really want? For them not to be friends any longer so she will not be a bad influence on my daughter. So who is telling this secret really serving? Me, my daughter, her friend, her friends parents. There are 3 businesses in life. Our business, everyone else’s business and God’s business. Who’s business is this that you are interested in being a part of? I would be content knowing that my daughter still trusts me to keep her secrets. I would be confident in my parenting skills that I raised her right for her to know right from wrong. I would be happy to let her make her own decisions in life and be there to support her whatever the outcome. We can love them or control them. We can’t do both. Whatever your decision it will be the right one. 🤘

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from best friend and sweet little girl to attitude, argumentative and mean teenager…Now What?

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THE CHALLENGE: Just looking for tips on how moms with daughters handled the transition from best friend and sweet little girl to attitude, argumentative and mean teenager. I’ve accepted that I have to loosen the reigns and let her try to figure out who she wants to be on her own while trying to provide guidance. Even though my guidance is not perceived well with her cause “I know nothing about anything” in her eyes. I keep reminding myself that I once was a teenager myself and this too shall pass. I also know that I’m not the only one who has or will go through this with their daughter. Just looking for suggestions on how to cope with these changes so that I’m not so miserable and feeling like I’m constantly nagging her.

NOW WHAT: I really love that you are trying to let her figure it out. That is amazing as some parents think the parenting job is to control them. They are looking to find out who they are and sometimes they see us as a road block. These days our teenagers are connected more to their peers than to us parents. It is mostly because they have constant connections with them (Facetime, social media, texting, etc.). Which leaves us parents excluded from their life, We cannot compete with that because that is 24×7 access. They have much to much in common with them than they do with us. But honestly, it does hurt seeing our innocent children turn into teenagers. Years ago when we were teens we didn’t have this type of exposure to our peers. We would see them in school and maybe speak on the House Phone (with a wire) I am not that old. However, when they get connected with their peers they are influenced by the groups beliefs, values and well most likely lack of respect for parents. Hey if my friend is putting down her parents, I should do the same so I fit in. The more they are influenced the more they will be mean to us. So what is the problem that needs to be solved? Ask yourself some questions. What am I going to accomplish by asking her a million questions? Can we have a conversation without me giving advice? Can I just listen and agree with the challenges she is facing without trying to rescue her? How can I try to understand her world? How can I show her I had challenges when I was her age and provide her with guidance without sounding like a broken record? When we try to give them guidance they just hear more noise. How can I show her that I am human and have feelings and am vulnerable? How can I find a way to become her friend (find a way to play the game that her peers are playing). What does she like to do, to eat? Can we spend some mom and daughter time together without, questioning, lecturing, judging or trying to rescue her? What do I need for me? What makes me happy? Our teens are going to do whatever they are going to do. Trying to control their lives will not work. I understand how it feels when they are becoming independent (we could do without the drama) but that is the stage they are in. We can love them or control them. We can’t do both. Whatever you do will be the right decision for you and your daughter.🤘

THE RESPONSE: thanks so much for your post!!! It’s great advice!! That’s the one thing I knew I’ve been trying to do and it wasn’t working which was to control her. I’ve since realized that I can’t do that. I gotta cut her some slack. I think me taking a step back, asking the questions you suggested will definitely help! I’m definitely just going to love her and hope that one day my actions will be her guidance. Thanks again for taking the time to offer this advice. It means ALOT!!

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Transformational Parent Coach, RelationSHIFTER, Teen Mentor, Part-Time Comedian & Author


I’m in a fight with myself…Now What?

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THE CHALLENGE: Well so far this morning my daughter has gotten in trouble because she can’t stop talking long enough to make it to class on time, and all of her classes are on the same level. There was a riot at the high school and my son got maced standing on the side lines, and because he didn’t keep it moving he got ISS for a whole week. I had quit my job due to some management issues but one of the higher ups asked me to come back so I’m in a fight with myself do I go back or stand my ground AND ITS NOT EVEN NOON!!!

THE FEEDBACK: What do you want to do? Can you be with your kids at school?. Our teens sometimes make poor choices. They grow when the are faced with consequences. This makes them better adults who learn coping skills in their teens. We try to shelter them so much and in the end it makes them weak adults. What could you have done when your daughter was talking in school? Could you have changed anything? Can you control riots at your son’s school and preventing a macing? Doing things that makes us happy shows up in how we love our children. So what do you want from this life you have been given? Do you want to go back to work or hang out at home and wait for the phone to ring to react to things you couldn’t control in the first place. We always have choices and the one you make will be the right one. In the end we can either love our teens or control them

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Richard Pryor
Warriors Of Life Institute
Transformational Parent Coach, RelationSHIFTER, Teen Mentor, Part-Time Comedian & Author