Couples Therapy and Marriage Counseling in Plymouth, MA
Stop Having the Same Arguments. Start Feeling Connected Again.
Are you tired of having the same fights, feeling like roommates, or wondering whether your relationship can survive another year of resentment?
I'm Richie Pryor, LMHC, a Certified Relational Life and married for 40 years. Therapist providing couples counseling and marriage therapy in Plymouth, Massachusetts, serving the South Shore, Cape Cod and Florida.
My approach is direct, compassionate, practical, and sometimes even funny. We don't spend every session rehashing last week's argument. We work to understand what's driving the conflict and develop the skills to change it.
Whether you're struggling with communication, infidelity, emotional disconnection, or intimacy, I help couples identify destructive patterns, take accountability, and rebuild connection.
I offer in person and virtual Couples Counseling and Individual Therapy and Marriage Counseling in Plymouth, MA, Cape Cod and surrounding areas. I also offer couples counseling intensives for couples in crisis or have demanding schedules and need to figure out quickly if it is time to stay or go. Have you tried couples therapy and it didn’t work. I also offer Relationship Workshops and my new program The Relationship Reset online Relationship Coaching self paced program for couples and individuals that have tried couples therapy and it didn’t work for them.
“I help couples, individuals and families explore and transform the dynamics within relationships with themselves and others. I provide a safe space with good energy and we work as a team to explore, problem solve and heal events from the past so you can be happy in the present. What my clients appreciate is my unconventional approach to therapy, I do not sit there and nod and ask you how that makes you feel. We work together, have a laugh or two and I do not hide behind a therapists’ veil of secrecy. I am relational with my clients so they can learn to be relational in their lives.”
My relational life therapy approach can help you become more relational with yourself and your partner so you can discover your happily ever after in 4 simple steps 1. Discover the dysfunctional dance that is triggering conflict. 2. Explore the past 3. Healing and reparenting the parts of you that did you get what you needed in childhood. 4. Learning relational skills that create connection and promote intimacy. Most therapists try to teach skills to the part of you that cannot use them. I teach skills to the part of you that can and will use them so you can become more relational.
If you're ready to improve your relationship with yourself or your partner submit an intake form today for individual counseling or couples counseling! I would love to hear about what is making you feel unhappy and stuck and answer questions you may have. I see couples, families and individuals in person and via telehealth. I believe having a connection with your therapist is essential for healing and growth. Without that connection you will not feel safe to open up and share what you are struggling with.
Are you thinking you in need of Individual or Couples Counseling? Are you saying things like; I am stuck in life and not sure what to do. I struggle with mental health challenges and have not found any relief. If you relationships lack communication, have constant fighting, not feeling seen or heard or if you with a partner who shuts down or resents you
The most important thing to remember is that no matter what challenges have you at a crossroads in life, a glimmer of hope is all you need to unlock the life you always dreamed of, have the relationships you want, heal from trauma and experience life on your terms. Fairy tales can come true and hope is where we start so you can discover your
Happily Ever After!
What Relationship Problems Are You Having?
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Poor Communication
This is the top complaint for all the couples I see. We don't communicate! There are two core reasons for lack of communication. #1 One partner has shutdown and fears conflict so they say nothing but their resentment bank is about to blow. #2 Both partners trigger each other and this activates your freeze, flight, fight response and you will never hear a word each other is saying. Click here to learn more
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Infidelity
If there has been an infidelity in the relationship,that will destroy the trust in the relationship. Once trust is broken it is hard to be vulnerable again with your partner. One partner wants to know why while the other one for the most part either does not know why or fears telling them the truth. Click Here to learn More
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Dealing with Grandiosity
Riding their high horse. Grandiosity is one partner needing to be higher than the other. They need to be right all of the time. My way or the highway thinking. Grandiosity typically happens when one partner feels as though they are being disempowered which impacts their already low self-esteem so they yell, argue and behave in a way that makes them feel empowered. Their attitude is "I had to take that from my parents when I was a kid and now I am an adult and have power and I am not going to let anyone speak to me like that or tell me I am wrong!" Click here to learn more
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Feeling Dismissed
When one partner fails to hear and see a partner they feel dismissed and not understood. A dismissive partner will yes you to death, gaslight you and may shut you down by yelling, walking away or retreating within themselves which is so frustrating for the other partner. Click here to learn more
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Feeling Controlled
A partner that is controlling typically struggles with a tremendous amount of anxiety. They are trying to control whatever they can so they do not feel out of control. However, this can leave their partner aggravated, resentful and leave them with a feeling that they are being parented and managed by their partner. "You treat me just like my mom or dad" I hear that quite a bit in sessions. Nobody wants another parent. They want a partner. Click here to learn more
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Feeling Suffocated
The feeling of being suffocated is like being controlled but different because this typically involves one partner not feeling loved enough. This partner will always be talking about how much their partner doesn't love them regardless of how much they believe they are doing. They pursue their partners with high intensity and if their partner is walled off from childhood they will run further away because they are love avoidant.
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Resentment
Resentment is a poison that slowly will eat away at your relationship until it ends. When your partner flies off the handle and has a huge reaction to something minor there is resentment in the relationship. I tell clients that it has noting to do with leaving the cap off the toothpaste. It is something in the past that they are holding onto that have them fired up and attacking you. Resentment is one of the biggest problems in relationships that is why I spend a lot of time in sessions working through them with clients and helping them heal so they can move forward.
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Living Like Roommates
Lot's of couples have this problem. It can be a result of several things, resentment about the past, one partner treating the other like a child, being walled off but one that I find apparent with a lot of couples is when they engage in Misery Stabilizers. These are the things each partner may do to avoid intimacy, connection and conversation with their partner. They kind of do their own thing. Some popular misery stabilizers are. Phones, social media, work, kids, hanging out with friends, Substance use and other addictions.
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Stable Ambiguity
The only way you connect is through your fighting and arguing. When I see a couple that uses this dysfunction to connect I ask them "If you stopped fighting would you still have a relationship?". They fight instead of having conversations because they have not learned relational communication skills and most likely are modeling what they saw when they were younger. Parent #1 makes a demand from Parent #2. Parent #2 Feels controlled and managed and goes on the defensive and that is the dance. They are communicating but in a very dysfunctional way.
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Marriage and Money
Struggling with money issues in your marriage? Financial stress can strain any relationship, but with the right tools and guidance, you can rebuild trust, improve communication, and align on financial goals. I help couples navigate money challenges, reduce conflict, and create a stronger, more unified partnership. Let’s work together to restore harmony in your relationship. Click here to learn more
What Makes My Therapy Approach Effective
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Good Energy
I believe that having the right type of energy in therapy is a key to making a connection that allows you feel safe and be vulnerable so you can process and heal from your challenges in life. I strive to provide a warm, empathetic, positive, calming and healing energy in my sessions so my clients feel comfortable to do the work.
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Problem Solving
I am not a therapist that sits there and nods while taking notes. My clients at times ask for help with problems they are having in life and we roll up our sleeves and we work as a team to solve them together.
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Talking About The Elephant
I find that partners feel that directness in couples counseling is helpful because a lot of untrained couples therapists will spend a lot of time beating around the bush of dysfunction and I go right through the bush in the first session and talk about the elephant sitting in the room. Clients have said "Wow we are not wasting any time and getting right into it". Yes, we are and that quickly I work so you can get back to living your lives.
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Time is Important
We can’t make or buy more time in life. Therefore, I believe that we should not be spending years in therapy. You have challenge in front of you that you want help and support with so you can get back to living your life and finding your happily ever after.
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Being Relational
I do not hide behind a veil of professional secrecy and we are equals in the room. I model what being relational is with my clients and meet them where they are at. When it is helpful I share my own life experiences with them which I feel accomplishes two things. Letting them know I am human and helping them understand they are not alone on their journey.
“These are the Five Reasons why you may be having relationship problems and it is not you or your partner’s fault”
#1 When you are triggered you revert to a younger version of yourself and all their job in childhood was to survive. So congratulations on that. However, how we adapted to survive in our childhood are the same resources we use in our relationships today which is not relational and not your fault!
#2 You and your partner most likely learned your relationship skills from your parents. Take a moment and think about that! Most Couples Therapists teach skills to the parts of you that can’t use them. I teach skills to the part of you that will use them.
Again. Not your fault.
#3 You have been triggering each other’s inner adaptive child without even knowing it, which creates your dysfunctional dance. Again Not your fault because you had no idea!
The more you criticize them, the more they withdraw, the more they withdraw the more abandoned and angrier you become, the more angrier you become and pursue them the more resentful they become.
#4
A. You grew up in a Walled up family where nobody showed their emotions. This would leave you love avoidant and fearing intimacy and connection.
B. You had a parent that that was boundaryless and you felt suffocated by their love. This would leave you love avoidant and fearing connection and intimacy.
You run from your partner and love!
C. You grew up in a Walled of family where you were emotionally and or physically abandoned or neglected. You didn’t get the love you needed and had to rely on yourself. This would leave you love dependent and craving for the love you never had when you were a child. You pursue your partner with intensity!
Once again, Not your fault because your parents learned their relationship skills from their parents!
#5 You haven’t found the right Couples Counselor until now because most Couples Therapists listen and nod while you and your partner argue about the argument of the week! Not Helpful. To become relational and discover intimacy you need help with healing your inner wounded child, freeing your adaptive child and awaking your wise adult that can be relational with yourself and your partner. Because the truth is that most couples therapists aren't trained or are not comfortable with taking this approach to therapy until now.
That is certainly not your fault!
“Because You Deserve A Happily Ever After”
“Don’t You?”
What clients are saying!